The Meaning Of Dating For Surabaya State University College Student In Terms Of Morality And Decency 

Fenomena berpacaran di kalangan anak muda termasuk mahasiswa menjadi sesuatu yang sering dijumpai di lingkungan masyarakat. Penelitian ini bermaksud mendeskripsikan makna makna berpacaran bagi mahasiswa Universitas Negeri Surabaya ditinjau dari moralitas dan kesusilaan. Pemaknaan mahasiswa terkait perilaku pacaran kemudian dianalisis menggunakan teori moral disengagement menurut Albert Bandura. Jenis penelitian ini yaitu kualitatif dengan desain fenomenologi yang mengacu pada pendapat Alfred Schutz. Lokasi penelitian ini yaitu Universitas Negeri Surabaya. Teknik pengumpulan data berupa wawancara mendalam untuk mendapatkan keterangan terkait pemaknaan mahasiswa tentang perilaku pacaran berdasarkan ucapan, tindakan, dan simbol selama proses pacaran. Data yang diperoleh dianalisis berdasarkan pendapat Miles dan Huberman. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa terdapat tiga faktor yang mempengaruhi keputusan mahasiswa untuk berpacaran yaitu ketertarikan fisik, rasa nyaman dan pengaruh lingkungan. Pemaknaan mahasiswa Unesa tentang pacaran diwujudkan melalui ucapan, tindakan, dan simbol kepada pasangan. Mahasiswa Unesa memberikan kata-kata cinta, ucapan selamat pagi maupun selamat tidur, panggilan sayang, dan kalimat afirmasi yang dimaknai sebagai ungkapan rasa cinta, kasih sayang, kepedulian, dukungan, dan pengorbanan kepada pasangan. Selanjutnya, mahasiswa Unesa juga melakukan kontak fisik seperti pegangan tangan, mengelus kepala, berpelukan, ciuman, hingga melakukan hubungan seksual. Kontak fisik tersebut dimaknai sebagai bentuk pembuktian cinta, rasa nyaman, kepedulian, pelampiasan rasa rindu, pelampiasan nafsu, dan pengikat hubungan. Kemudian, pemaknaan mahasiswa Unesa tentang pacaran juga diwujudkan melalui pemberian hadiah sebagai sebuah simbol perayaan ulang tahun, permintaan maaf, dan ucapan terima kasih. Perilaku berpacaran mahasiswa mendatangkan dampak positif dan dampak negatif bagi kehidupannya. Segala perilaku berpacaran mahasiswa didasari oleh penalaran moralnya. Mahasiswa membentuk perilaku moral disengagemnt justifikasi moral, penghalusan istilah, difusi tanggung jawab, melemparkan tanggung jawab, mengabaikan konsekuensi, dan menyalahkan pihak lain untuk membenarkan perilaku pelanggaran moral yang dilakukannya.

The phenomenon of dating among young people, including college student, is something that is often found in society. This research aims to describe the meaning of the dating for Surabaya State University college student in terms of morality and decency. College students’ meanings regarding dating behavior were then analyzed using the theory of moral disengagement according to Albert Bandura. This type of research is qualitative with a phenomenological design which refers to the opinion of Alfred Schutz. The location of this research is Surabaya State University. The data collection technique is in the form of in-depth interviews to obtain information regarding college students' meaning of dating behavior based on words, actions and symbols during the dating process.The data obtained was analyzed based on the opinions of Miles and Huberman. The research results show that there are three factors that influence college students' decisions to date, namely physical attraction, comfort and environmental influences. Unesa students' understanding of dating is realized through words, actions and symbols towards their partner. Unesa students give words of love, good morning and good night greetings, affectionate calls, and affirmation sentences which are interpreted as expressions of love, affection, care, support and sacrifice for their partner. Furthermore, Unesa students also make physical contact such as holding hands, stroking heads, hugging, kissing, and even sexual intercourse. Physical contact is interpreted as a form of proof of love, comfort, care, an outlet for feelings of longing, an outlet for lust, and a binding relationship. Then, Unesa students' understanding of dating was also realized through giving gifts as a symbol of birthday celebrations, apologies and expressions of thanks. College students' dating behavior has both positive and negative impacts on their lives. All college student dating behavior is based on their moral reasoning. College students form moral behavior disengaged from moral justification, euphemism of terms, diffusion of responsibility, throwing responsibility, ignoring consequences, and blaming other parties to justify their moral violation behavior.